Unnoticed Abuse

I was on my way home from school the other day and I overheard a song on the radio that really caught my attention. The song “Girl” by Destiny’s Child, describes a women who is stuck in an abusive relationship and who is too afraid to admit it. Beyoncé Knowles and Michelle Williams wrote the song's lyrics as a plea to their bandmate Kelly Rowland to escape an abusive relationship.

Many women in America unfortunately are in abusive relationships and don’t speak up and or have a hard time convincing themselves that they are in an abusive relationship. This song not only tells us a story, it also tells us that nobody should ever feel isolated or alone if they are in need of help.

“Girl, I can tell he's been lying

And pretending that he's faithful and he loves you

Girl, you don't have to be hiding

Don't you be ashamed to say he hurt you”

A majority or abusive relationships that go undetected is because the girl is ashamed to say that she is a victim and thus stays in the relationship even longer to prevent anybody from finding out about it.

 “It ain't really him its stress from the job

And I ain't making it easy

I know you see him bugging on me sometimes

But I know he be tired he don't mean it”

Women who are victims tend to make excuses to why they are feeling down. They also defend their partner’s actions on common everyday stresses. Girls who hide it fear that they will be judged as someone who let their partner treat them like a useless object, or they fear that their partner will harm them if they try to leave.

Abusive relationships go undetected everyday in America. Women today have the power today to say and do anything a man can do. We must not back away from the fear because in the end we have a voice that can be heard from all over the world. You are not alone!